Day 3
I slept for 11 hours. Great. I guess I am jetlagged but it’s weird, I sleep at 7/8 pm and wake up at around 4 or 5 am. But everyone in my family here wakes up that early. But you know what’s crazy? They wake up without an alarm! That just seems amazing to me. Their biological systems are impeccable!
I totally forgot to write about something that happened on Day 1 or 2 (can’t remember). We went to what I think is the best restaurant I’ve eaten at in the world! It was a Rajasthani restaurant called Rajdhani. As we entered, there was a man in a proper Rajasthani outfit that greeted us and put a tika on each of our foreheads (a tika is like a mark that originated with a religious purpose). It made us feel so important; being greeted individually and addressed with well wishes for our meal put a great start to the day. Then we were seated at these fancy tables where each plate had a folded napkin along with 10 (ish) really small bowls and a couple spoons. As usual we had to ask for bottled water. I assumed that like all restaurants we would be handed a menu to make our decisions for our dinner. But I guess this was more like a buffet style, where we were given everything to eat! Literally everything. But instead of a serve yourself buffet, there was one person who was set to serve each food. But even before the first dish was handed out, a guy came with a golden bowl and a pot with a fancy spout. We were each asked to wash our hands as warm water was poured from the spout and drained into the bowl that the guy held below. Then started what felt like a never ending amount of dishes. It was great because they only poured a little tiny amount of each dish so that we could try everything! And every single one of them was amazing. It tasted amazing because everything tasted authentic, and not like the typical commercialized restaurant food. It was a little funny because all of the servers were rajasthani, so they didn’t understand tamil and we didn’t speak rajasthani so we had to communicate by pointing to things that we wanted more of, but they were nice enough to name the different dishes before they put it on our plates. It was probably the best restaurant experience I’ve ever had. And it was only 450 Rupees which translates to a little less than 9 dollars!! As I discovered this fact, I turned to my dad and exclaimed how cheap this was, because just ONE dosa in the US was around $8. He laughed and he said yeah it may be cheap for you because you are earning in US dollars and spending it in rupees, but you have to understand that here, people’s salaries proportional to the prices here and in fact prices go up but salaries don’t, so it’s in fact not all that cheap to everyone else. That’s interesting, so like my cousin said, I guess it’s best to earn in US dollars and spend in rupees 🙂
But there was one thing that always bothered me when I was eating dinner. I wish I knew two things: 1) how many dishes were going to be served overall and 2) how much of each dish they were going to serve. I knew that it had to be little, but with these many dished I wish they served EVEN less. I tried to finish as much as I could but I still wasted a lot of food. I know that I do waste food but for some reason I felt really guilty walking out of the restaurant with so many poor people around me who only get to eat once in a few days. This is a different topic that I will probably write about later, but for now, I just want to document the awful guilty feeling I had.
On a much happier note, today I went to a grandma’s 100th birthday party!! It was the best birthday I’ve been to. She’s a grandma that’s related to me but the connection is a bit far and complicated. She was 100 and absolutely gorgeous. My mom told me a silly story that even when she was 90 something years old, she wanted to re-stitch her ears (grandma’s back in the day wore such heavy earrings that their ears would rip) just so she could wear earrings again, because she always dressed up before she left the house. All her sons and daughters and some of her grandchildren were there (from Canada, from the UK, from the US, etc) and they all gave speeches in honor of her! How cool! To live to be 100 is incredible, so she deserved all the praise everyone gave her. And she was so humbled and sat in her decorated chair and watched as everyone came to take pictures with her and take her blessings. I was almost going to miss coming to this event because my stomach was hurting all morning, but I’m so thankful I didn’t miss it because I got to meet so many people! All the times I’ve met them before, I’ve never been able to make the connection of how they’re related to me or other people I knew, but this time it was awesome because I could make the connection and keep everything in check. Coming from a HUGEEEE family, this is quite an achievement! And the best part was that I got to meet cousins that I’ve never gotten to meet or really connect with before. They were my age which is great, and it turns out that one of my cousin’s friend studies at my school and I know her!! Actually I knew her before my cousin even knew her haha, how funny! No I lied, I actually think the best part of the party was meeting the coolest grandpa ever. He is the older brother of my grandmother from my dad’s side. Funny thing is my grandmother is the youngest of the siblings, 20 years younger in fact!! She was really little, so this grandpa, her brother, was pretty old, but he was so cool! He met me and said “wow, you’re like an exact replica of Janaka (my grandma)”, which is nothing unusual because everyone who’s seen my grandma, my dad, and I know that we all are copies of each other 🙂 Which is such an honor because my grandma was absolutely stunning! But he saw me, greeted me, and commented about how I look like my grandmother and we proceeded to have a conversation, in English! He said, “Yeah so I believe your father said you were studying in uhh let’s see…oh right San Diego? Is that right?” I was shocked! Usually when people ask me where I study, I’m not sure what to say because So Cal isn’t much of land mark except for LA, so I kind of beat around the bush that I’m in San Diego, but he nailed it! He told about how he was there with his wife a long time ago and how nothing beats San Francisco and it’s crooked streets and everything else. My father then joined the conversation and explained how grandpa has traveled the world and has been to almost every famous place there is! He was so humble and said, oh that’s not big deal, it’s just a few places here and there. He was so amazing. I guess I underestimate how awesome people in generations older than me are, because another grandma I met introduced herself to me and said “yeah yeah, I’ve seen pictures of you growing up on facebook with your mom and sister too! I was going to send you a friend request, but I thought maybe you might not recognize me, but now that we are acquainted, we can be facebook friends and keep in touch!” I was amazed, but this is great – to be able to keep in touch with all my family is something I’m lucky to be able to do! Go grandparents!
As I mentioned, the connections I need to make in order to understand how someone is related to me is complex, so I’ve decided that I want to create a family tree of all the family that I know! It’s going to be HUGE and I know that it’s going to be very very crowded, but most importantly I know that it one person will probably have 6 arrows point to him or her because I am probably related to them in 6 different ways. But I am determined to make this happen!
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